Guilt, Shame, White Privilege

Guilt, Shame, White Privilege

Pete: I love that “white middle-class complex” thing going on at Hacker News. Jovan: Tell me about it, I don’t get it. Where does it stem from? Pete: They are a bunch of emotionally stunted, white, middle class geeks I guess. They want everything to work like software, but it doesn’t. And they want to generalize everyone as themselves+delta, when they aren’t. Jovan: Hah. Don’t tell me you got pulled [...]

Recent

Privilege of Desire

Privilege of Desire

Angela is not my girlfriend. You wouldn’t know it if you saw us together though, the way we kiss, the way I pick her up and spin her around, the way we look into each others’ eyes, and touch each others’ faces while we talk. There is melancholy and doubt in her eyes that I noticed when I first met her. She’s a shining torrent of love and positivity, and [...]

Keep your Baggage Light

Keep your Baggage Light

Carlos came to me the other day very upset. He’s in his mid 20s, and he’s about to be engaged to his beautiful girlfriend who he loves very much. He’s always been straight, except… you know where this is going. He met Zeb a few weeks ago, and Carlos can’t get Zeb off his mind. Carlos is intensely attracted to him, romantically and sexually. Carlos’ question is: what does it [...]

Man Over Gremlins

Man Over Gremlins

Continued from Zombie Gremlins Here’s a game of Zombie Gremlin Ping Pong, the proverbial echo chamber I mentioned the previous essay, played out over the course of thousands of years: Master Morality Strongmen like Genghis Khan run roughshod over the known world. No one can stop him, his men have the best lives and most reproductive success. I hear 5% of the modern world population can trace their ancestry back [...]

Zombie Gremlins

Zombie Gremlins

Continued from Gremlins of Belief I knew a goth girl in college. She identified as Wiccan, which basically means she worshipped “The Goddess,” nature. She had grown up a Jehovah’s Witness, and when she left her parents’ house, she saw the error of their beliefs, and she became Wiccan. There is a mirror image version of the Gremlin Fallacy. Instead of continuing to believe something that’s been fundamentally subverted by [...]

Gremlins of Belief

Gremlins of Belief

Tortoise: This watch works because tiny, invisible gremlins are pushing the hands. Hare: No, the watch works because a battery is powering a motor, that drives some gears that are attached to the hands. Tortoise: Ah, I see the machinery, clearly. The gremlins must be using the machinery to drive the hands for them! We know that’s not true though. The machinery obviates the need for gremlins—the machinery fundamentally subverts [...]

The Gridlock of Identity

The Gridlock of Identity

You can’t kill him because you’re a good person. You can’t doubt him because you’re a person of faith. You can’t let him pay for your dinner because you’re a feminist. Even though you really want to. What would it mean if you killed, doubted, let him pay? You wouldn’t be who you are. It’s easy when you’re a good person who is not killing people. That’s not likely to [...]

The Life of Aaron Swartz

The Life of Aaron Swartz

If you’re not a geek you may not have heard who Aaron Swartz is, or that he recently killed himself. If you are a geek, you haven’t heard much else since it happened a few days ago. Most the blogosphere is alive talking about his death. I want to talk about his life. Aaron was a very smart geek. He won the ArsDigita Prize in 2000, when he was 12 [...]

I Choose Everything

I Choose Everything

I’ve spent a lot of time considering not only what should go on this site, but also what I should focus on in my life. I like a lot of different things. I obviously spend a lot of time thinking about psychology and spirituality, which I write about here. Most people don’t realize I’m also an artist, a professional software developer, a math enthusiast, an entrepreneur, an improv comedian, and [...]

The Herd and Changing the World

The Herd and Changing the World

I’m forced to listen to pop music almost everyday thanks to the predictable tastes of the 13 year old girl I live with. The thing about pop music is that it’s palatable in the same sense candy is palatable. Most people love candy because it stimulates our animal brains; I don’t like candy that much, but it’s difficult to find candy that’s actively disgusting. That candy contains no nutritional value [...]